Alignment

Exactly a week ago, I messaged one of my great friends and shared what I’m about to share here. It’s been a week and the same feeling still lingers, so here is my “I called it” moment.

There’s always been a part of me that didn’t want to express my happiness just in case it didn’t work out. But somehow, this time around is very different, in that, I feel like I am ready to call it out. I want to prove to myself that I called it before it happened.

What has changed? Am I simply willing to risk something out in the open? or is it more that I trust myself to know that it will turn out the way I know and hope it will and I’m okay with that?

My friend said “that you are changing patterns and accepting the possibility of happiness. A bit of both, but also not being afraid to allow yourself to be happy in the possibilities and a willingness to be more open in general to world.”

It’s the first time I’ve felt alignment in a long time. I longed for this. Someone ready to give. Someone who has given me a lot already. This feeling of flow and groundedness. The IS. Like there’s things that I’m naturally letting go to fit someone in, and it’s a natural process without much thinking. It’s a connection built on feeling, an energy. It’s hard to express with words, but it is very sensory driven. I can feel the energy permeate through the phone call. The grin, the smile, the rolling eyes, the surprising warmth, the smirk, the inner child, the dirty mind, the honest, the vulnerable, and the transparent.

I know it’s genuine because I find my friends in this person. My posse, my tribe, my culture. “The look,” the grin, the non verbal facial expressions. Somehow there’s already a cultural understanding — and that’s huge for me. Someone who gets me (scary thought huh?) and someone who isn’t afraid to call it out. To act accordingly. It’s admirable, and so encouraging.

My friend called my energy giddy, but that this is good and real. It really is, and I’m looking to explore where it takes me next.

2018

This year was rough.

Looking back at my #bestnine and scrolling through my calendar, the year is quite a blur. The year started with anxiety, stress, and a tense body. I can only recall certain moments — certain time frames that occurred before me.

In no specific order, I remember the two deaths too many — the moving dance piece that made me overflow with emotion at the Whidbey Institute — finding a tribe full of interculturalists (people that get me) — hours and hours of girl talk with my wild sisters — an explosion of verbal expression — plethora of tears — self-doubt — lost hope — vulnerability — Project 137 — This is Day One (Drew’s book) — P2P Coaching program — World Cup — overthinking — The Voice Season 15 — self-care — WSU Cougar Football — web of connections — gratitude — numbness — growth — self-discovery — Top Chef/New Amsterdam/9-1-1/This is Us — and truth.

I learned firsthand what it means to build a habit. The Lessons Learned & Gratitude journal (LLG) helped me appreciate what I have and what lessons I learned on a daily basis. Consistency is key to everything we do. Setting a goal and sticking to the goal. It’s as simple as that.

In my head, this year felt like everything and nothing all at the same time. Up until the second week of December, I wanted to simply end 2018. I didn’t have any goals or outlook for 2019, but I knew I needed 2018 to be done with.

Reflecting back, December 12th was the day that changed this year for me. I took on my first shift as Crisis Counselor, helping a texter get through a hard time, and being there for that one person. Gave me hope that I too can be of service to someone in times of hardship. A simple ‘Thank you’ at the end made me feel warm and fuzzy. If you or anyone else needs someone to talk to, Crisis Text Line is available 24/7 at 741741. Yes, it’s text, and no, we’re not robots.

That same day, I got a rather peculiar text from someone I knew. It had been since March 2017, but for some reason, it was time for us to re-connect, and I’m glad we did. 2018 is still hazy, but 2019 looks promising.

My intent word for 2019 is REVEAL. To reveal is “to make (previously unknown or secret information) known to others.” but in order to reveal something, I need to learn or discover it first.  I’d like to think I’m ready to reveal myself in all layers of my life through self-reflection and interaction with others. 2018 taught me a lot about who I am and how to care for myself. I look forward to dig deeper and experience things I’ve never felt or seen before.

In midst of this hazy year, I got moments of clarity participating in Project 137 hosted by Patti Digh. Starting on August 16th ’til today, we were given daily prompts to reflect, create, and journal about. One thing I learned through this project is it’s worth buying a notebook. It doesn’t get more real than putting pen to writing on a white sheet of paper. I’d like to free write the rest of the post using the prompts from the various days.

Did you know you can write yourself a letter to the future you using https://www.futureme.org/? It’s a rather interesting concept. Many characters in TV shows do it. I just wrote my letter. We’ll see what it reveals when I open it in the next couple of months. Stay tuned.

Day 3: Make a list of 5 things you would do if you truly only had 3 days left to live. Ironically enough, I’m at peace with where I am right now. I might make last minute video chats, or call up friends and family to tell them how much they mean to me, but I’ve learned that I shouldn’t wait to say this to them. I’ve made a real effort this year to express what I want to say to the people I care about these last few months. It’s never too early to share that with someone and I didn’t do it to get anything in return. It puts me at peace that they heard it from me and that they now know.

Day 2: If you could sum up in three words what you learned about yourself this year, what would those three words be?I am enough.

Day 1: How might you continue this focus on mindfulness in the New Year?  I’d like to continue the LLG posts and add Edible Moments, and any other topics I’ve been meaning to writing about.

I’m truly grateful for: my support network who don’t judge me when I spill my emotions out; the timing of life; Duolingo; my sisters near and far (you know who you are); old school conversations via phone call; rekindled connections; and heartfelt encouragements.

This year was tough, but I made it through with your help, and I look forward to what’s to come tomorrow.

It’s been a while since I last posted. Last week, I ended up feeling sick and wasn’t up to par for about a week. It made me realize how much I tried to be physically strong this year. I held in a lot. It’s sometimes so worth it to simply let your body dictate what not to do. Was I the most productive? Probably not, but I was definitely most productive in healing my body.

Learned I can’t force my body to do anything. I need to listen to my body more and keep it in tune. Pausing my life was exactly what my body needed.

I also completed my first shift as a Crisis Counselor yesterday. It was insane and rewarding all at the same time. I hope I can build the skill of not overthinking and apply it to my own life. In the end, I was there to do my part, to be there for someone in need, at that moment. After that moment, it’s not up to me what someone else does.

Gratitude goes to reconnected friends, girl talk, phone conversations, informational interviews, and remembering to continue posting.

Tonight’s episode of The Voice was controversial and it all boils down to chance. It wasn’t the girl’s fault that she became ill and decided to sit this episode out, but the show is called The Voice, and for a coach to throw a team member under the bus to protect another is uncalled for. Not sure if the producers had a solution for an instance like this, but the show must go on, and if a singer wants to sit an episode out, that’s her choice. I sincerely hope DeAndre Nico continues to wow the world with his singing capabilities. Kudos to Coach Kelly for acknowledging DeAndre.

On another note, learned that cooking works with backwards design too. If I have an end visual to how the plate will be, I can strategically cook it in time.

Gratitude goes to lamb, sweet potato gnocchi, harvest salad, trader Joe’s, and TV shows.

Watching The Voice makes you see what talent is really like. It’s one thing to be able to sing mainstream music but then to make it your own voice and style is what makes the great ones. I have my personal favorites, but every week someone else surprises me. I knew most of the songs tonight, but only a few (3 to be exact) made me think they sang it as good if not changed it up to be better than the original. Others, lost pitch or ran out of breathe. It’ll be interesting to see who is being sent home tomorrow.

On a different note, I transferred all my posts here which allowed me to deactivate/delete two other blogging platforms. Rereading past posts took me back to triumphs, resilience, heartbreak, and vulnerability. It made me realize that writing is always the solution to help me get through my emotional outbursts. It’s where I can talk to myself out loud and clear out the hazy mess in my mind.

Gratitude goes to The Voice, music, writing, Vanessa Marin’s webinar, and to new discoveries.

As you can see, I switched back to WordPress. I deleted my Tumblr account after I exported everything to this site. Trying to consolidate all my journals into one page. Next up is live journal.

It’s interesting to re-read past posts and the comments made by others. I wrote lots of poetry back in college and I had my go-to friends. It brings back memories of being connected to friends through icq, aim, and MSN (am I dating myself?).

Gratitude goes to reliable servers, posting from phone, past archives, new site, and customization options.

I wrote a long post yesterday about how frustrating it is to be in a predicament where the posts you thought were posted were in fact not only not posted, but wasn’t saved.  The last 4 days were full of learnings but I relied too much on the tumblr phone app. (something about tumblr glitches these past few days).  I of course don’t recall them – I mean, that’s one of the reasons why I post every night, so that I don’t forget.  

But of course, yesterday’s post wasn’t saved either.  I’ve given up on the android tumblr app.  I’m submitting this through my laptop, but I’ll need to find another platform to continue the blogging.  I’m considering Wix or going back to WordPress.  

Today, I finally got to attend a Generation Wellness training.  It was 6 hours of resource filled hands-on training.  A big message is about educating the whole child–mind, body, and heart, and with that comes self-care and the understanding of your brain.  If majority of parents want happiness for their children, then why isn’t happiness taught in schools? Vanessa does a great job integrating the human side into the tech fields.  Lyndsay is integrating the human side into the educational systems.  Since the training was in Olympia, I had to leave my house around 6:30am –which means wake up around 5:15am.  Of course, I had way too much anxiety about what if scenarios of driving to Olympia, and didn’t get much sleep.  I got back in one piece, but boy am I exhausted.   Driving makes my anxiety level sky rocket.  Not fun.  With that, I promised some friends I’d get back to them, but I’ve decided to put that off for tonight and sleep early tonight.  

Gratitude goes to origami, educators, counselors, introverts, and wellness warriors. 

LLG: I am at my last stretch for Crisis Text Line Counselor training and realized that I’ve got laser sharp focus when it comes to opportunities to be of service to others.  I got a surprise in the mail today– a signed copy from Drew Dudley for his first book, This is Day One.  Today started with a talk with Bobbi and how I’m at the cusp of revealing my true self vs. letting go of my true self.  I’m on the edge of an end and a beginning.  

Gratitude goes to learning, small wins, surprises, training, and friendship.